they do have depression, so that might be the case. i definitely did that to this same person last year (i had purchased something through proxy on their behalf because i was already buying stuff for myself and didn't send it until a few months later), and i hadn't thought about that! it's a good point.

i may try to gently bring it up the next time we're talking about things coming in the mail. i don't want her to feel ashamed for taking a while, but let her know i understand since I did it before, myself.

thanks, anon