but that's not how this thread came to be. 'you agreed to play smut and we're supposed to be playing smut, but you're turning down smut'. replace smut with any other thing and people would be just as confused. if you agree to do the thing and don't say 'sure, let's play smut, but it'll take a bit for my char to warm up', then most people are going to naturally assume you mean IN THAT THREAD. that's like jumping into a smut meme about mid-fuck memes, then deciding that your char was raped or ignoring that it's a mid-fuck meme and not having any sex happen. why play in the smut theme if you're not going to smut it up?

i'm not against not smutting. don't smut if you don't want. but don't agree to something, play something out, and then do everything possible to not do the thing you agreed to. it does come off like they're expecting dubcon/noncon at that point.