tbh, i'm jelly that you have a mtf or even trans friend. 99% of the trans women that i've met treated me like shit.
they either hate me because:
A. i'm "lucky" to be a woman and they think that i'm being completely ungrateful about my uterus/vagina even though i could say the same shit to them (but i won't because it's fucking rude and a little transphobic),
B. cis lesbians will throw themselves at trans men like me but not them (NEWS FLASH: IT'S TRANSPHOBIC TOWARDS US TRANS MEN EVEN IF THERE ARE SOME TRANS MEN WHO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT),
C. i'm "not really trans" because it's acceptable for women to wear pants, like wearing pants is the most important part of my fucking life,
D. they think that going on T is gonna make me this huge masculine misogynist bro asshole who's gonna bully all women with my bro-ness, or because
E. i don't like stereotypically manly things (fuck cars and sports, anime and art all the way) and am therefore appropriating transgenderness for the special snowflake points.
i've actually made ftm "friends" before but they cling to me because i'm also trans and all that they wanna talk about is transgender shit 24/7. one person told me the same god damn story about dropping his packer into the toilet like twenty fucking times when it would be a relief just to talk about the weather or tv shows. i ended up just ditching all of them because we had nothing in common and i was sick of talking about binders, packers, and vagina woes. the worst ones would be like "fuck your bigoted family, you should be out and proud and tell them to go fuck themselves until they accept you!" like homelessness isn't a huge possibility for me.
and with all of the toxic tucutes, i just don't feel like befriending trans (or "trans") people, period.
it feels weird to say/think this in my mid 20s, i probably come off as older with all of my transgender stress. orz
MORE VENTING AHEAD, I APOLOGIZE IN ADVANCE
they either hate me because:
A. i'm "lucky" to be a woman and they think that i'm being completely ungrateful about my uterus/vagina even though i could say the same shit to them (but i won't because it's fucking rude and a little transphobic),
B. cis lesbians will throw themselves at trans men like me but not them (NEWS FLASH: IT'S TRANSPHOBIC TOWARDS US TRANS MEN EVEN IF THERE ARE SOME TRANS MEN WHO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT),
C. i'm "not really trans" because it's acceptable for women to wear pants, like wearing pants is the most important part of my fucking life,
D. they think that going on T is gonna make me this huge masculine misogynist bro asshole who's gonna bully all women with my bro-ness, or because
E. i don't like stereotypically manly things (fuck cars and sports, anime and art all the way) and am therefore appropriating transgenderness for the special snowflake points.
i've actually made ftm "friends" before but they cling to me because i'm also trans and all that they wanna talk about is transgender shit 24/7. one person told me the same god damn story about dropping his packer into the toilet like twenty fucking times when it would be a relief just to talk about the weather or tv shows. i ended up just ditching all of them because we had nothing in common and i was sick of talking about binders, packers, and vagina woes. the worst ones would be like "fuck your bigoted family, you should be out and proud and tell them to go fuck themselves until they accept you!" like homelessness isn't a huge possibility for me.
and with all of the toxic tucutes, i just don't feel like befriending trans (or "trans") people, period.
it feels weird to say/think this in my mid 20s, i probably come off as older with all of my transgender stress. orz