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[(Anonymous)]

Have any of you ever been in love

I'm nearing 30, never have, and feel emotionally retarded about it

[(Anonymous)]

that's not necessarily a bad thing, anon

21 and been in love several times, but it's not for everyone

[(Anonymous)]

I think this is what puts me of

People say it's the worst thing they've ever experienced while also being the best but than just sounds awful to me so I haven't tried

[(Anonymous)]

i thought i was multiple times but now i'm pretty sure i wasn't

we can be retards together

[(Anonymous)]

i've never been in love and i don't think i ever will be.

[(Anonymous)]

i'm also almost 30 and no, i haven't

no matter what i do, i'm still like "ew this is awful i don't want to do this" whenever i'm dating

+100

[(Anonymous)]

and i've tried so much. even when i like the person it seems like too much work

[(Anonymous)]

almost 30 and a few times

[(Anonymous)]

depends on what you mean by in love? if you mean the crazy moviesque head-over-heels experience,

1. i don't think anybody isn't emotionally retarded about it, that seems like a standard side effect of being whomped by the emotional equivalent of a dumptruck and

2. you may never feel it and that's okay! some people are just the contented slowburn types. it'll take you longer to find people you click with that way and longer to warm up to them. maybe you're in the process, idk

[(Anonymous)]

36 and no. i've been in a few short-term relationships when i was younger, but i've been single for the last 13-14 years and totally fine with it.

[(Anonymous)]

i thought i was, once

then i got older and realized "love" doesn't really exist, at least not in the way most people think of it (they're usually thinking of lust)

[(Anonymous)]

Explain

[(Anonymous)]

Nearing 30 here, I've had feelings for people before, but I'm very inexperienced in it.

Don't worry, what you feel is normal. Most people kind of stumble through love and relationships until they find someone they can tolerate being around for the rest of their lives, and then it gets easier because you're not dealing with 'love' in general, just feelings for one specific person.

[(Anonymous)]

25, and once.

don't really recommend tbh.

[(Anonymous)]

ugh, yes. it's good while you have it but if your relationship goes sour, it fucking sucks

[(Anonymous)]

this thread has remarkably made me feel better about not being alone in this situation.

[(Anonymous)]

itt: a whole lot of lonely fat girls

[(Anonymous)]

Also nearly 30 and I'm pretty "eh" about the whole love and dating thing. I could take it or leave it, but I'm pretty happy just being single, too.

[(Anonymous)]

Nearly 30 also, and yes, I have, several times but "love" changes over the years I think and some people don't realise that.

I was absolutely in love at age 18, and again but differently at 21, and now again differently once again at this point in life.

Really, I don't think I was wrong thinking I was in love when I was younger, but I definitely know now that love isn't about being shot through the heart and everything being perfect and purely emotive. I don't take what I currently have for granted though because I know I'm incredibly lucky to have met the person I'm with and that they love me too, but I don't think I'll find anyone like this again in my life and we've been together 8 years now.

[(Anonymous)]

don't feel bad about it anon. being in love isn't all it's cracked up to be, or at least it's never been that way for me. usually it just leaves me feeling batshit insane, miserable, and tired.

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, you're probably just aromantic. Which is perfectly fine. There are other people out there who are. I think the big thing you need to ask yourself is if you want to be in love because you legitimately want that connection for yourself, or if you want to be in love because you feel like you have to be and there's something wrong with you if you're not?

[(Anonymous)]

On Tumblr, they've made a sparkly new sexuality for you, complete with colors and pride flag.

[(Anonymous)]

early twenties and... not in a "loving relationship" sense. i've fallen for people, and i've had people fall for me, but it wasn't mutual.

my issue is mostly that i bond with people at the speed of a challenged sloth, while most other people in my age group need less time for these things. that just ends up being emotionally draining and i'll grow to resent them if anything. /shrugs whatever will be, will be.

[(Anonymous)]

yes, twice. once when i was 15, and it made me kind of crazy (falling for another girl also made me confused af and i think that contributed a lot). loved her thru the rest of high school, which i guess is how i know it was love and not just a crush; she could drive me mad sometimes but i cherished every moment of friendship i got from her, so tho it was totally one-sided on my part, i don't regret it bc i learned something about myself from the experience.

fell in love again in college and, while the person was and is one of my best friends, it didn't work out. i still love them almost a decade later, and i think i always will, but i don't expect or even really want anything more than friendship and i am ok with that.

at this point in my life i just want to focus on me, tbh. i don't like the idea of being with someone and relying on their feelings for me to create my happiness; i want to be able to create happiness for myself first.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah but I haven't seen or spoken to the guy in over a decade. But I know I loved him and still do because I still occasionally think of him.