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Do you have children? If so, how many? Do you want more?

If you don't have children do you plan on having some eventually? If not, why?

Bonus: how old are you?

no

i don't ever want kids. they're money sinks and i love my money more. i also love my free time and space. i'm about 98% sure about this and i'm going to start looking into sterilization soon since my bf wants to dip it in

i'm 26

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No children. Don't want any either because I dislike children and know I'd make a terrible mother.

I don't have kids.

I don't want kids because I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to love them. I'm close with my sister, but feel almost nothing for her kids beyond just thinking they're kinda cute. I still like kids though, and I've considered being a teacher in the past.

I'm 24.

My uncle and his gf are awful people, so my mother and I are raising their two kids now (ages 5 & 1).

I don't think I'll have the time or cash to raise any more children beyond those two.

I'm 25.

No/no/no/no.

I've literally never wanted kids. When I was a kid playing house I still never wanted kids. I'm 27 now and the family is starting to hint at me left and right but honestly no. I can't even keep a cactus alive, what would I do with a small human?

i might have two at the most but i'm actually really concerned about passing on my mental problems. and if it were just me it'd be one thing, but literally my entire family is certifiable

i'm 28 and in a stable relationship with a decent chunk in savings and could easily support a kid right now? but ehhhhhhh no

don't have any now, but i'd like to have one (or more) eventually. gotta get a more stable life and find a partner who also wants kids first though.

I want five kids, which gets me funny looks from anyone anytime I mention it. Yes, I want a large family, nothing wrong with that as long as I can support them all. I came from a family of three girls and it always felt like something was missing. Ideally, I'd like to have a few and adopt the rest, but they all might be adopted. Only one of my ovaries works right, so I dunno even if I'd be able to conceive naturally.

But all of this is way in the future, because I'm 24 and don't even have a boyfriend.

No children. I love them and have wanted some so badly at times that it hurts. I hope to have at least one some day, but I do have reservations about certain things.

I'm 32, so time is ticking.

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nope

nope, they're expensive and I'm too selfish

22

I don't want children right now and have no specific plans to have them, even though I'm in a relationship, but I could easily see myself having one or two later on in life.

I'm twenty-one.

no kids.

I'd love adopting a child but considering I love my partner more and that'll never be her thing... no, I don't want children because we aren't a perfect pair for a child. I'd only ever want one child.

23

No children, but I definitely want some. Mostly likely two, but I wouldn't mind ending up with three.

My fiance and I have been together for about five years and we're going to start trying as soon as we're hitched, now that we're finished with school and have jobs.

I'm 26.

No.

I never wanted kids but I was recently diagnosed with a genetic condition that guarantees I'll miscarry anyway. I'm kind of glad because my family used to put a lot of pressure on me to procreate and now I get to make them feel like dicks anytime they do that.

30.

no

no, i have nothing against kids but i don't think i'd be a good parent. i can't imagine myself being responsible for shaping someone's life like that.

23

no

idk. maybe. i'm not fully decided one way or the other. the partner would like to but they're ok if i decide not to. waiting either way since we're nowhere near the kind of place we should be to raise children.

26.

No

I want kids, probably 2 or 3. I am afraid that a medical issue will make it difficult for me to convince and adopting babies is so difficult.

I'm 23.

No

Yes, hopefully within the next few years. Now's not a good time since neither my partner nor I have permanent employment.

30. Really hoping the employment situation works out soon.

Don't have kids.

I really want kids eventually, but after I get settled and have an actual job/have some money in the bank to help support the family. like, if I don't ever find ~the one~ then I'll probably just single-mom and adopt because I really want kids. :( no more than three if I have a partner, only one if I'm single-moming it up.

and I'm 23

no

i don't hate children, and don't just tolerate them, but i don't see myself as being a good parent. my parents do want a grandchild but honestly don't want to have a kid but tell them maybe just to shut them up. although considering i've never been in a relationship i don't know why my parents are expect any children from me

if anything i'll adopt an older kid /shrug

22

No.

I do want kids, ideally 2-3. Unfortunately, I haven't even been on a date since 2008, and the only two relationships I've ever had were online/long distance (I did meet both of them in person multiple times) because I have no idea where to meet peers for romantic relationships now that I'm out of high school (I don't drink and hate bars/clubs in general, and would prefer to date someone who is already a friend instead of just going on dates right away).

I'm 25.

no kids, never want kids, have never wanted kids. i would make a terrible mother and i don't really like kids anyway. i'm 29.

No.

No, because I don't want to. Because I have no interest in it. Because it is a huge life changing responsibility I am not ready for and never want to be ready for. Because children are expensive as fuck and I am in no way in any position to be financially responsible for a child nor in a living environment where I could properly take care of them in a way they deserve (a small single flat I can barely afford as is? please). Because what little spending money I do have I'd rather spend money on myself and my significant other. Because I still want the freedom to travel and move around and live my own life and advance my own career and explore my own hobbies and not feel like me or him must to drop that for the sake of a child. Because I have a family history of pancreatic cancer and melanoma, bipolar disorder (both me and him) among other things. Because the process of pregnancy is like body horror to me and freaks me the fuck out. Because I think this world doesn't need any more babies. Because I get mad when society expects me to think otherwise. Because I'm satiated with pets. Because he doesn't either for most of those same reasons.

Sorry for ranting but it grinds my gears a lot. I have absolutely nothing against anyone who wants to have kids, or has had kids. I am in fact am envious they have the strength and fortitude to go through that journey with their body for an entire nine months and then beyond... it just scares me and I personally am so not into the idea of having kids for a million reasons.

I only get bitter and angry at people who want kids and absolutely have no sense of responsibility and unrealistic expectations about what they're getting into, or people who already do have kids and don't take care of them.

29

i do not have any.

i don't want any biological kids. i'm not sure if i want any at all, but i've sort of toyed with the thought of foster kids or adoption, so i may do that. but i have absolutely 0 interest in being pregnant or having kids of my own, and weirdly enough, i don't want a future partner (if i ever get one of those) to already have kids.

i'm 28.