rpanonmod ([personal profile] rpanonmod) wrote in [community profile] rpanons2013-07-27 09:50 am

Badly's an adverb

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Re: ITT: enneagram

(Anonymous) 2013-07-31 06:24 pm (UTC)(link)
Same here.

We must fight to the death.

Re: ITT: enneagram

(Anonymous) 2013-07-31 06:27 pm (UTC)(link)
THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE

Re: ITT: enneagram

(Anonymous) 2013-07-31 06:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Actually, I'm curious now. What do you like to do, anon?

Re: ITT: enneagram

(Anonymous) 2013-07-31 07:04 pm (UTC)(link)
Beyond RP? Honestly I'm pretty much your generic geeky type--I watch anime, play video games, etc. Recently got into tabletop RP. I'd like to learn how to sew or crochet but I'm a little hesitant to try since if I screw it up it feels like a waste of money, I guess?

tbh that's not really all that ~*~unique~*~ but I come from some sort of repressive backgrounds so it was a little eyebrow-raising.

ayrt

(Anonymous) 2013-07-31 08:20 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, cool! I'm basically the same, except I do a lot of art and am really into interior decorating, clothing design, and I'd like to learn Japanese flower arrangement but classes for that are waaaay too expensive for me right now.

I think I'm unique in the sense that I think of my identity as a WIP, like any number of my other projects. I also have a lot of shame surrounding that, and being so concerned with image while wanting to be as authentic as possible, which is supposedly the paradox of 4.

Re: ayrt

(Anonymous) 2013-07-31 11:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Haha, when I was a kid I wanted to be a fashion designer and an interior designer at one point! I also wanted to learn flower arranging, too--even checked out some videos on it in the library--but I never got around to really investing myself into it.

"Work In Progress" is probably a healthier way to look at it. I've gotten to where I've gotten this concept of myself as a "broken" person, which has been pretty unhelpful. Definitely have the shame and frustration over not being authentic, too. It comes up a lot in my counseling sessions.

Re: ayrt

(Anonymous) 2013-08-01 12:36 am (UTC)(link)
Aww, I'm sorry anon. But honestly, I'm the same. It's taken a lot to stop seeing myself as broken or flawed or defective, and sometimes I still do, but the dreaded self-acceptance is the thing I'm working on. It is unreasonably difficult and sometimes I have to laugh, because I'll so readily accept other people and their foibles while being incredibly cruel to myself.

It's hard to be authentic when you don't like yourself, isn't it? And since you don't like yourself, that's not what you want to show to other people. I remember I used to get super mad when someone would point out something about me that they'd noticed, and liked, and it wasn't something I consciously presented to them.

Re: ayrt

(Anonymous) 2013-08-01 01:16 am (UTC)(link)
Oh man, yeah. I've been trying to apply for jobs recently and I've been really freaking out a bit about wanting to be "authentic" in interviews, but at the same time feeling like I don't want to do it because it'd be like "selling a product I don't like" and hnnngh.

Man, I'm really weirded out by how accurate this personality test seems to be. I feel like we're a lot alike!

Re: ayrt

(Anonymous) 2013-08-01 01:51 am (UTC)(link)
Yep, been there. I've been advised to pursue jobs closer to my interests, but with the economy being shit, ahahaha nope. It seems like interviews are about being as ingenuine as possible and are mostly a test of your bullshitting skills, which really sucks.

It's kind of weird, yeah. The description linked down-thread actually kind of pissed me off because it's so spot-on. Considering we have the same instinctual variants and such, yeah, I think we are a lot alike.

Re: ayrt

(Anonymous) 2013-08-01 04:34 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah. I've been trying to only apply at places I think I'd ENJOY working but since I don't even have a degree yet, it's pretty tough.

Haha, the one with the long description that was viewed through the wayback machine? It pissed me off a little, too. Enough that for some reason I felt a compulsion to tell everyone I know.