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Random poll: Do you feel comfortable calling someone/talking on the phone?

No! I get so nervous and my heart starts racing and it's really fucking annoying. It is 20 times less stressful for me to talk to someone in person. I have no idea why, it's really frustrating.

sometimes i am sometimes i'm not

no and i will avoid it whenever possible.

like the other anon, it's somehow less stressful just to talk to them face-to-face, which is kind of weird.

No, not really. I fucking hate talking on the phone.

Humans are very visual creatures and we rely a lot on more than just tone of voice to express ourselves--not being able to see if the person on the other end of the line is smiling, sneering, looking exciting or looking bored with what I have to say leaves me feeling very vulnerable. I get nervous. I stutter. I get told I speak too loudly. That I don't speak loud enough. I speak too fast. I speak too slow. I mess up pronunciations. I suddenly apparently have an accent. That I sound like the opposite gender. I sound like I'm sick. That person with the same name and voice I thought was someone I knew ended up NOT being that person I knew. I'm constantly self conscious about what I'm saying and how I'm saying it because people think the wildest things when they can't see you.

Myself included.

I'd rather just avoid it when possible.

Face to face I can use gestures, eye contact, and rely on facial cues to adjust the conversation appropriately. Text, yes, tone is definitely lost but I can take all the time I need to articulate sentences exactly as I mean them, clearly and thoughtfully without missing a point or having my brain skip around because it goes faster than words coming out of my mouth.

It depends! If I have to call someone for a personal reason (like asking a favor or even ordering a pizza), it can take me days to work up the courage to pick up the phone. But if I'm making calls for my job, it's very easy because I essentially feel anonymous. I've worked jobs where I'm on the phone all day, and I apparently have a very good "phone presence," so no one ever believes me when I say it's hard for me to make personal calls.

not really, though the only calls i make often are cold calls for work, and it's always a bit scary to call complete strangers to talk business.

calling friends or family, i'm pretty comfortable.

Nnnnnope. Phones are my worst enemy.

I know I'm really comfortable around someone when I can dial their number without thinking about it. Otherwise, even with people I know pretty well, sometimes I waffle on calling them because I'm worried I'll be bothering them or something.

People I don't know - service people - are even WORSE and I. Don't even know why. I really need to get over it. :|

I'm fine with talking on the phone, but not so much calling someone. To me calling someone feels demanding and rude. By calling them I am asking them to step away from what they are doing to answer the phone and what they are doing may well be more important.

The same doesn't hold true of a business though. A business has a phone to receive calls from potential customers and allow them to ask questions before they show up or in the case of a support line, they have people ready to answer. I only feel this way when it comes to calling someone's home or cell phone.

nope.

calling someone i deem important (like a doctor, the financial aid office, etc.) scares me the most. i'm okay if i call my mom or my bff, but calling anyone else makes me anxious. i'll put things off for ages or ask if my mom can pretend to be me (we sound similar people say). i don't know why i feel this way.

I can do fucking anything.

I have the hardest damn time understanding people on the phone. I am the animals from Homeward Bound.

Hi me. People think I don't understand because they have a heavy accent/we're speaking my second language but I just suck with everyone.

i'm weird about this

the thought of it freaks me out. but the second i pick up that receiver i am the most charismatic and composed person ever.

dunno what it is really

not in the least. i have no desire for a cell phone because it means people will use it and i don't want to talk to anyone on the phone, i hate it. i never return calls, i never make calls, and whenever the phone rings i get really anxious that it might be for me.

A lot more than I used to, but it's not great. I still sometimes get anxious. But I don't run away from the phone any more.

Not at all.

I would take face to face interaction over phone calls any day.

I just have a really, really hard time understanding people over the phone because of background noise/volume/people generally sounding different over the phone. I feel bad asking them to repeat and even after they say it two or three times, I some times still don't get it and the person on the other end become really frustrated. Even if I apologize, I still can't understand and get things right.

I never, ever have this problem in person and it only happens when I'm on the phone. I associate the phone with frustrated and angry people and me feeling like a huge fuck up.

No. I hate it

I have phone anxiety because I used to be an awful student and would get hit whenever a teacher called home to say I failed a test/forgot homework or when the county called to remind my family that report cards were coming out and I knew I had a poor grade in my worst subject.

I fucking hate phones.

No I hate it, and I hate that I hate it because it makes my life so much more annoying because of how hard I try to avoid it.

I don't enjoy it but it isn't anxiety-inducing.

Used to hate it. Then callcenter work became the only available job to me due to the shitty economy and i learned not to be a baby about it.

oh my god, seriously? these answers, yeowza. yeah, i call my best friend almost every day while driving home, call my mom and dad every other day, have no problems calling people at work or making smalltalk on the phone. i call my college friends regularly to keep in touch after we all graduated and moved. my boyfriend calls me to talk every night before he goes to sleep.

calling someone isn't 'demanding' anything of them... if they don't want to talk then they can not answer the phone?

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