i'm sorry, op, it doesn't sound like they're being good team players. this has also happened to me before and the most frustrating part was that my canonmates had tons of mixed/positive cr with crosscanon characters who were worse villains than mine, which made it feel like something was wrong with Me, Specifically, especially when whenever i asked the message i got was that it was just an IC choice, although they were happy to use me to generate drama of the week for their characters :/