arguing semantics is bullshit, come on anon. the root word for "-phobia" can also mean to have a dread or aversion towards something, not necessarily a fear.

and honestly, i'd argue that a lot of racism comes from a fear of people who are different.

trying to argue the word away does nothing but redirect the conversation in a pointless direction. hell, if you wanna argue semantics, then why do we use the word racist the way we do, when a word like artist or linguist carries no negative connotations? see how stupid of an argument that is?

also back to your original point: there's a big fucking difference between someone who doesn't want to watch gay porn and someone who goes "ew gross" when they see two men kiss.