i apologize if anything i said came across as accusatory or implying that you are definitely the problem, full stop. it wasn't my intention. if i engage in these sorts of conversations, i always try to cover the bases, because frequently those are the issues, and a lot of people aren't aware of how often they're being negative or how difficult the things they talk about are to incorporate into a two-way conversation. i've seen a lot of it on my own timeline with people i like but find difficult to engage for various reasons.
if you've already done all of the above and it's really not a matter of social awkwardness, then yeah. it's the people you have on your list and that you're all a poor fit for each other, which sucks but sometimes happens.
you also said that you were in games years ago, implying that you aren't now? that could be a huge contributing factor. a lot of people don't or won't engage with people they're not in games with. their socializing on plurk, even the stuff that seems non game related, is still tangentially game related in that they're cultivating ooc relationships to maintain ic cr. you may have people like this on your timeline.
anyway, again sorry if i ruffled any feathers in my response to you. i was hoping it would come across as just open ended questions and clearly came across a little more accusatory or judgmental than i meant to.
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if you've already done all of the above and it's really not a matter of social awkwardness, then yeah. it's the people you have on your list and that you're all a poor fit for each other, which sucks but sometimes happens.
you also said that you were in games years ago, implying that you aren't now? that could be a huge contributing factor. a lot of people don't or won't engage with people they're not in games with. their socializing on plurk, even the stuff that seems non game related, is still tangentially game related in that they're cultivating ooc relationships to maintain ic cr. you may have people like this on your timeline.
anyway, again sorry if i ruffled any feathers in my response to you. i was hoping it would come across as just open ended questions and clearly came across a little more accusatory or judgmental than i meant to.