we only have one side of the story here, anon. if someone doesn't try to see things from the other point of view, what's the point of this conversation except to circlejerk?

op, if you're cool with it, it'd be cool to get a follow-up on this when you find out. i must admit i'm curious as to whether all the other anons in here are right and i'm just not seeing something that's obvious to everyone else in here