okay i see what's going on. you're talking about this very specific situation op brought. in which case, yes, it is conjecture on our part to assume that their partner is pushing for noncon/dubcon without communicating as such beforehand. i was reading this portion of the discussion on more general terms, as in when it actually is being forced on someone, and not just as one of a variety of potential reasons for the way in which op's partner is playing.

i do agree that op should be communicating with their partner instead of us. all we can do is speculate. actually, everyone should fucking communicate. can we get that on a t-shirt? "have you communicated with your rp partner today?"