i've never seen anyone 'sneak it' the way rape anon insists they do, but hope springs eternal i suppose

i'm not going to argue with you on that because you're right, but that doesn't mean you can't make your preferences clear too. like the op said in their title, this refusal to communicate (see: i'm not going to tell you i'm not interested in your tag, i'm going to ignore it and make you guess if you did something wrong!) is where a lot of modern-day dwrp's problems come from