The fact that some people use a term inappropriately doesn't mean that what the term is meant to describe isn't real.
It's interesting you compare it to overused terms like "asexual" and "trigger," because people generally don't act like those things are not real; they instead criticize people who use them inappropriately.
I think the "lol demisexuality isn't real" thing is mostly based in the unfortunate fact that demisexuality happens to coincide with the bullshit Victorian "madonna" side of the madonna/whore dichotomy. So people get up in arms about the moral implications and how anyone who identifies as demi must be looking down on those gross people who fuck around with anyone, when ... no? Maybe some demisexuals do. I've never seen anyone who actually identifies as demi say that, just people who are complaining about tumblrina demis claiming that that's what it always means.
Some people really are asexual the vast majority of the time and with regards to the vast majority of people, but are capable of experiencing sexual attraction within close emotional relationships, and that's what "demi" was actually coined to reflect.
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It's interesting you compare it to overused terms like "asexual" and "trigger," because people generally don't act like those things are not real; they instead criticize people who use them inappropriately.
I think the "lol demisexuality isn't real" thing is mostly based in the unfortunate fact that demisexuality happens to coincide with the bullshit Victorian "madonna" side of the madonna/whore dichotomy. So people get up in arms about the moral implications and how anyone who identifies as demi must be looking down on those gross people who fuck around with anyone, when ... no? Maybe some demisexuals do. I've never seen anyone who actually identifies as demi say that, just people who are complaining about tumblrina demis claiming that that's what it always means.
Some people really are asexual the vast majority of the time and with regards to the vast majority of people, but are capable of experiencing sexual attraction within close emotional relationships, and that's what "demi" was actually coined to reflect.