I was in my 30s when I read about demisexuality, realized I probably would have IDed as asexual at 16 had I known about it, and wouldn't have chased boys as a way to fit in back then.

I married my husband after dating him for almost 2 years and never knew what it meant to be sexually attracted to him until after the marriage. That's why I describe myself as demi rather than ace.

It bothers me when people say demisexuality isn't a thing when it describes my experience so well and knowing about it being a possibility might have saved me a lot of confusion.