it truly is the key. i tried to have a relationship with an rper a while back, but mine didn't work out. i thought we would be fine because we didn't even rp with each other much! we didn't have much friend overlap, we only shared a couple fandoms, and we rarely were in the same game together.

problem was... most of our conversations were still about rp. i could tell you years worth of rp drama i heard from her, but i couldn't tell you much else about her life or interests. part of that was absolutely my fault too because i never tried THAT hard to steer her away from the topic of rp, even if i was tired of hearing about it. but to be fair she never asked me about myself either, so. yeah. it kind of felt like, why bother. it was just bad.

if you find someone interesting, don't avoid them just because they rp. it can work out! but make sure they have something they care about besides just rp and fandom, and make sure you BOTH show interest in each others' lives.