Agree with much of this (for example being allowed to speak your mind, even if your opinions are shitty, so long as you're not calling individuals out) but not the making friends part. It's not our job to educate and normalize and take that abuse so that others will come around.

In a situation like this where I was to rub shoulders I'd only get close enough to watch carefully for anything that could be considered abuse, then report her to the mods.