I don't know if I can match you point by point from the comics, because I have a feeling you're more knowledgeable about the minutiae of 616 than I am, but I'll use direct examples when I can. From what I have read, there's plenty to debate in your interpretation. Yay, discussion!
First off, I didn't mention 'mom and dad are fighting' because I think CW was about Steve and Tony's messy break up or whatever. I know very well it's way more complicated than that, please don't assume :(. Anyway, I mentioned it because the other Avengers referred to them that way, which sums up a lot about their relationship in one handy little phrase. They're the semi-acknowledged 'parents' of the team, and have been friends a long, long time. Their periods of conflict don't negate that; everyone has knock-down, drag-'em-out fights and disagreements with the people they care about from time to time.
Tony and Steve may not be each other's best friends (I'm not going to debate about Sam, Rhodey, etc.), but I have to say I think it's out and out ridiculous to say that they're not friends at all, just allies. On Marvel.com's own page about 616 Tony: 'Revived, Captain America joined the Avengers and became an important teammate and friend to Tony.' They may mostly operate in different spheres outside of the Avengers, but how is that relevant to whether or not they're friends? They hang out together outside of work, they try to help each other with personal problems (Steve approaching Tony during Demon in a Bottle, etc.), they have myriad moments of turning into a regular mutual admiration society, they save each other over and over again, often making a sacrificial play to do so (Red Zone, etc.). And for Civil War -- Steve's personal override for Tony's armor, The Confession, Tony at Steve's funeral, that's all allies who aren't even friends? No. The whole reason their opposition in CW was so terrible was because they're such close friends. CW did put them on damn rocky grounds, and there was no guarantee they were going to be able to even work with each other again, except they have patched things up.
Clashing, disagreements, ideological tension--just because they have 'em regularly doesn't mean they're not extremely important friends to each other, or that they're incompatible. Viewing and approaching the world differently doesn't mean they're incompatible. You say 'Tony focuses more on security, and how to solve problems, while Steve is more of a dreamer, and believes in the good of other people.' I would have said 'Tony is a futurist, and erroneously believes he's the only or best person to solve a myriad of problems (the control freak), while Steve is a stubborn idealist who holds everyone to his own high expectations.' I think it makes their relationship way more interesting and nuanced that they have this multi-layered dynamic going on where they end up as each other's check and balance a lot of the time.
And I also agree with everyone the anon just above me said. ;)
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First off, I didn't mention 'mom and dad are fighting' because I think CW was about Steve and Tony's messy break up or whatever. I know very well it's way more complicated than that, please don't assume :(. Anyway, I mentioned it because the other Avengers referred to them that way, which sums up a lot about their relationship in one handy little phrase. They're the semi-acknowledged 'parents' of the team, and have been friends a long, long time. Their periods of conflict don't negate that; everyone has knock-down, drag-'em-out fights and disagreements with the people they care about from time to time.
Tony and Steve may not be each other's best friends (I'm not going to debate about Sam, Rhodey, etc.), but I have to say I think it's out and out ridiculous to say that they're not friends at all, just allies. On Marvel.com's own page about 616 Tony: 'Revived, Captain America joined the Avengers and became an important teammate and friend to Tony.' They may mostly operate in different spheres outside of the Avengers, but how is that relevant to whether or not they're friends? They hang out together outside of work, they try to help each other with personal problems (Steve approaching Tony during Demon in a Bottle, etc.), they have myriad moments of turning into a regular mutual admiration society, they save each other over and over again, often making a sacrificial play to do so (Red Zone, etc.). And for Civil War -- Steve's personal override for Tony's armor, The Confession, Tony at Steve's funeral, that's all allies who aren't even friends? No. The whole reason their opposition in CW was so terrible was because they're such close friends. CW did put them on damn rocky grounds, and there was no guarantee they were going to be able to even work with each other again, except they have patched things up.
Clashing, disagreements, ideological tension--just because they have 'em regularly doesn't mean they're not extremely important friends to each other, or that they're incompatible. Viewing and approaching the world differently doesn't mean they're incompatible. You say 'Tony focuses more on security, and how to solve problems, while Steve is more of a dreamer, and believes in the good of other people.' I would have said 'Tony is a futurist, and erroneously believes he's the only or best person to solve a myriad of problems (the control freak), while Steve is a stubborn idealist who holds everyone to his own high expectations.' I think it makes their relationship way more interesting and nuanced that they have this multi-layered dynamic going on where they end up as each other's check and balance a lot of the time.
And I also agree with everyone the anon just above me said. ;)